We started with this chart and looked through each country trying to figure out what is best for our family. The agency we started with is Lifeline Child. They are amazing. We settled on China because it seemed like a good fit. But as we got further in the process we started realizing that most of these kids have major special medical needs. My heart broke. We started searching through pictures and trying to figure out how to even begin thinking through some of the medical problems these kids are dealing with. Then I had this sick feeling.
Why am I so scared to trust the Lord in providing? Providing funding for the surgeries when the child is home, providing unknown unfamiliar care for the medical needs of the child. Our social worker told us that even the most minimal special need could require up to 8 surgeries. How much is this going to effect Tyler? I cried my way through the interview call with the social worker. She eased my mind and heart and said that God does not call everyone to a special needs adoption and you might not be that family He is calling.
Why am I so scared to trust the Lord in providing? Providing funding for the surgeries when the child is home, providing unknown unfamiliar care for the medical needs of the child. Our social worker told us that even the most minimal special need could require up to 8 surgeries. How much is this going to effect Tyler? I cried my way through the interview call with the social worker. She eased my mind and heart and said that God does not call everyone to a special needs adoption and you might not be that family He is calling.
So we sat on it for a few days, prayed, and agreed to choose a different direction for now. We feel that maybe some day when Tyler is a little older that might be a better time.
This week a received some great information on Foster to Adopt. We are going to a training session in a couple weeks to find out more. Just from the initial phone interview it sounds like a great option. I was surprised to hear the home study is free! The likelihood of getting a child younger then 3 is slim to none but this sounds like a great option.
Please feel free to message me on reasons you chose International verses Domestic or why you chose to go through the state verses a private adoption. Any information helps! melteague@gmail.com
Also I hear all the time..... "My friend just adopted a baby from Texas" I absolutely have not seen how to do this. There are agencies and the waiting list are crazy. But if you are reading this and have information on how I find pregnant moms wanting to give their baby up for adoption, I would love to hear more!
This week a received some great information on Foster to Adopt. We are going to a training session in a couple weeks to find out more. Just from the initial phone interview it sounds like a great option. I was surprised to hear the home study is free! The likelihood of getting a child younger then 3 is slim to none but this sounds like a great option.
Please feel free to message me on reasons you chose International verses Domestic or why you chose to go through the state verses a private adoption. Any information helps! melteague@gmail.com
Also I hear all the time..... "My friend just adopted a baby from Texas" I absolutely have not seen how to do this. There are agencies and the waiting list are crazy. But if you are reading this and have information on how I find pregnant moms wanting to give their baby up for adoption, I would love to hear more!
**** Disclaimer- I am not a good writer and horrible at grammar and spelling. So please show grace and know my blog post are for those that are interested in our adoption journey. <3 <3
We'll be praying for you! Our friends Tammy & Rick Ellington chose to foster first, and met their twins in the NICU at a week or two old. They fostered them for around 9 months before officially adopting them, but were even able to name their babies. :)
ReplyDeleteI think Melissa & Doug Merriman may have adopted this way as well, but I can't remember. If I can find blog links I'll post them here.
Thank you Bree!
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